Most of you breeze through life like you have the manual at the back of your hand. However,
there are some of us who fumble every so often trying to figure out how
we can keep our lives in motion and not rot in a “rut”!
Often times, we wonder if being
successful isn’t really meant for us. Or maybe we really have the word
“loser” engraved on our foreheads or in our hearts. Better yet, we’ve
probably branded our lives an “Epic Fail!”
I’ve
often fallen flat on my face over the course of my existence. And I
will not lie about how painful they’ve been. Yes, I’ve bruised and have
been wounded in the process. And now I have the scars of yesteryears to
remind me of my failures.
So
how many times must we fail, you might wonder. I’ve asked that question
so many times. I remember my father telling me that there are more “no”
that “yes” in every aspect of life.
Rejection
will always be there, he affirmed. He stressed it to me that if a yes
was easily achieved, it wouldn’t mean a thing. He went on to tell me
that rejection is the gate that keeps mediocre people away from what
they want.
I really didn’t
understand what he was trying to tell me. I was his first born son and
was kinda spoiled so I pretty much got what I wanted. It was only when
my parents passed away that I realized and applied what was taught me.
So how many times do we try to make it in life? As much as we would like to. And for as long as we are breathing.
Here are some tips to keep you from throwing in the towel:
Have the desire
Having
the desire to achieve what you want conditions your mindset and your
heart to the end result. So instead of finding excuses on why you should
do it, having a strong desire helps you find solutions on how you can
achieve what you want.
A sense of humility
There
is no need to brag about wanting to climb Mount Everest. Having a sense
of humility allows you to embrace your humanity. It helps you realize
what is real and what is achievable. It also helps you to keep going
after your goals over and over. A sense of humility helps you understand
that failure is part of the process.
Be vigilant and steadfast
There
are people who will pose as your friends. But in reality, these people
the are “dream poppers” of your existence. They will tell you that it’s
better to be mediocre than to humiliate yourself trying to be someone
better. Keep away from these people.
Don’t try to be someone you’re not
Who
you are is beautiful in itself. God made you in his image and likeness
but you are uniquely YOU! the goal is to try and try and try to improve
yourself within the context of who you are. You don’t want to be
someone you’re not.
With
these tips in mind, learn to appreciate the fact that what you may have
now is something envied by those around you. If you must ask yourself
how many times you should attempt at something, make sure you know the
ultimate benefit you will get out of it. At the end of the day, of it’s
worth fighting for, it doesn’t matter how many times you have to try to
go after whatever it is your after.
